Why Women Deserve A Place in the Church
- Arianna Quiroz
- Jul 17
- 3 min read
"If only someone had told me… that the point of the gospel isn't 'try harder,' but 'try less.' That changed everything for me."
All too often, women in church settings are saddled with shame, particularly around topics like purity culture or perfectionism. Kendra Dahl and I have both seen how this can profoundly impact self-worth and spiritual well-being. What a relief to hear her affirm that the gospel is about grace, not about endlessly striving and hiding our failures. If you’ve struggled under shame, know this: you are not alone, and there is freedom and healing in Christ.
Theology Is For Women, Too
"We underestimate what we can call each other to as women, we can actually be learners, women who know the scriptures."
As women, we’re sometimes given an “easier” version of theology, as though we can’t handle depth or complexity. Kendra’s passion for making theological study accessible not just for men, but for every woman, deeply inspires me. She reminded us of Mary, whose prayer was so saturated with scripture that she could meet God’s call with faith and boldness.
You don't need a seminary degree to dive deep into the Bible. Tools like the Jesus Storybook Bible and approachable reading plans can open your eyes to seeing Christ woven through every page of scripture. Whether or not you ever set foot in a formal classroom, your calling as a disciple is to know God, know His Word, and pass it on.
Where Do I Fit? Redefining “A Place” for Women
"I want us to be women who know God and know our own minds… and be persuaded by the scriptures about what our place is."
Moving deeper into the conversation, Kendra shared her motivation for writing her book, A Place for Reframing Christian Womanhood. Like so many, she struggled to fit the molds held out for “godly women,” seeing herself as too curious, too bold, too eager to lead.
We need a vision of womanhood in the church that is expansive, beautiful, and rooted in scripture, not just tradition or the latest social trend. This means honoring all women: single and married, mothers and those without children, leaders, learners, nurturers, and friends.
The Value and Power of Women’s Ministry
"Women can come alongside one another in ways that are unique and essential, to relate, teach, and encourage each other to flourish."
The need for strong, vibrant women’s ministries in our churches cannot be overstated. Women’s ministry is not just a social club or secondary to “real” ministry. It’s often where women feel seen, heard, and free to wrestle with the tough issues and joys unique to our journey.
It’s also a launching pad: when women are trained and encouraged among other women, they’re more likely to speak up, serve, and use their gifts in the body as a whole. It’s about bringing our full selves—our talents, our experiences, our vulnerabilities—to the wider church, enriching everyone in the process.
Courage, Conviction, and Flourishing Together
"The church is both law and gospel. We need conviction about why we gather, and courage to live it out, even when life is busy or hard."
In a world where church attendance among women is declining, Kendra challenged us to reclaim our conviction and courage, to view church as essential nourishment, not just one more obligation. She reminded us that the church flourishes when every member, male and female, contributes their unique gifts.
To my sisters who feel unseen or unsure where they belong: cling to God’s goodness. Let others carry your faith when you’re weary. Wrestle through the questions, God will meet you there. And remember, your story, your presence, and your voice are more precious than rubies. If you’re hungering for more, Kendra’s book is a wonderful first step.
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